SECRETS OF A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP.

Have you ever seen a couple who had been together for 30 or 40 years and wondered what their secret was? You're probably aware that having a blissful relationship is something which is not easy to come these days.

Having a happy relationship is attainable. You need to access and put some of principles to attainable a happy Relationship,most of which are;

CLEAR EXPECTATIONS.

Clear expectations are the foundation of trust, compassion and understanding. You hear alot of talk about trust these days,but finding a person who can trust to be in a relationship with you is difficult. If you and your partner are unclear about what the expectations of the relationship are(for both sides), you're left with only ASSUMPTIONS...and assumptions almost always lead to disappointments, which are perceived as violation of trust.

RECIPROCITY.

This simply means mutual dependency. There is no such thing as something for nothing,and this will apply to pretty much every area of life: your financial life,your Relationships,your health,your career and your Emotional well - being. If one partner is giving too much,the relationship is always on its way downhill(destruction). But if you focus on meeting your partners needs according to their expectations (instead of your own), they'll be much more likely to reciprocate.

Again,this is one of the reasons why clear expectations are so important. Many people try to practice reciprocity, but instead of giving their partner what they need,they give based on what they ASSUME that they need. So reciprocity reauires clear expectations in other to make a relationship blissful.

PLAYFULNESS.

Life is too short to be in a relationship where you can't have fun and be a little playful with your partner. One of the greatest joy in adult experiences can be acting alittle childlike, and you need someone in your life who will share this experience with you.

Ofcourse,there are many different types of senses of humor,it's important to find someone who thinks the way that you do and who finds humor in the same things.

TIPS FOR A HAPPY RELATIONSHIP

TALK CONSTRUCTIVELY.

How you say things is as important as what you're saying. If you and your partner are having a disagreement, don't just attack them or get all - out criticizing. Why not try using 'I' statement? By saying"I feel" rather than "you always". You're taking responsibility for your emotions and your partner won't feel like they're being blamed for everything.

LISTEN TO EACH OTHER

Listening is such an important tool in relationships. Sometimes,we find it hard to hear what our partner is saying because we're so wrapped up in our own emotions.

Remember that communication works two ways. Listening to your partner is the only way to know what's really going on with them.

DON'T BOTTLE THINGS UP.

If something has upset you, you're not doing yourself or your partner any favors by keeping it to yourself. This is only likely to cause resentment to build up that will come out in other ways,if it's something that really matters to you,talk about it.

KEEP THINGS FRESH.

Making the effort to keep things fun and interesting in your relationship can really make a big difference. It's easy to get complacent about having someone in your life,but this kind of attitude can also lead to boredom and dissatisfaction. Let your partner know you appreciate having them around by surprising them occasionally.

APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE.

Many people endup looking out their relationship because they think there's someone out there who is ' better ' for them. Relationships aren't about finding the ' perfect ' partner. They're about allowing the connection you do have to develop and grow. The strongest Relationships are usually the ones that have been given the time to flourish.

GIVE EACH OTHER SPACE.

Although it's great spending quality time together, don't forget you both need to nurture your interests and friendships. Lovers who spend every moment in each other's pockets can easily begin to feel unfulfilled when they realise that their personal interests have started to slip. Allow each other to spend time on the things you enjoy separately. When you can reconvene as a partner you'll be pleased to see each other and have lots to talk about.

AVOID JEALOUSY AND BUILD TRUST.

Jealousy can destroy Relationships, and nothing is less attractive than the green eyed monster. If you're worried your partner isn't giving you enough attention,try the open,honest approach rather than acting out or accusing them of looking else where. Building mutual trust is the key to banishing unhealthy emotions and remaining strong together

© Relationship consultant

By Clifford Saxton

Published by Ekene